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Greetings all!

Catherine and I would like to announce that earlier today our two little miracles were born at Franklin Woods Hospital in Johnson City, TN. Aiden was born at 10:07a and weighed 6lbs 1oz. Gibson was born at 10:08a and weighed 6lbs even.

Aiden came out ready to eat and is doing great. He’s the vocal brother who really wants his temp to stabilize so he can room with his brother again in the stabilette.

Gibson is the laid back of the two and has a ton of hair. I think I see the makings of a great sideburn situation.

Cathy is doing well after a few bumps in the road this morning. She is out of recovery now and will most likely remain in the hospital for 2-3 more days, so we hope to have our twinstant family home by Monday.

More to come …


Rick, Catherine, Aiden, and Gibson


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A belated Happy 4th to all the faithful DBADaddy followers.  So here’s a few things I’ve learned over the long holiday weekend …

  1. TiVo remotes are washable.  When you inadvertently wash the TiVo remote in a random load of laundry, your best bet at making it usable again is to a. remove the batteries, b. set it out to spot dry (it is in the mid 90s here so I just left it outside on the deck for a few hours), c. put it in a bag of rice overnight.  Luckily for me, the remote works again and Cathy remains happy.  This could have been a catastrophic situation.
  2. Just pay for the plywood.  I purchased two AngelCare AC401 SIDS movement/sound monitors, one each for the twins’ cribs when I saw them go on sale this month at Amazon.  For them to work as advertised, you really need to put them on a solid surface under the crib mattress.  Since our cribs have wire springs, I started looking at using a masonite board/piece of plywood to sit on top of the springs for the monitor to lay on.  Since Lowe’s plywood was about twice as much as particle board, I went with particle board.  After a little more research, I find out that some particle board uses formaldehyde based glue.  Wheee!  My babies sleeping on carcinogens!  So I looked up a non-toxic sealer to use and over the course of a few days cut, sealed, and painted the particle board.  All-in-all it would have been cheaper to just buy the plywood.  Indeed, <./lessonLearned>.

We ended up having a very event-driven 4th of July though; some friends who live in Charleston were in town so we had dinner with them one night, we had a neighborhood cook-out, watched the city fireworks show, and attended a local street festival in a neighboring town.  Also, one of our annual outings is to go to the lake with some friends and rent a party barge.  We all pack our own lunches and drinks, and bring one share’able side.  It’s a great day of swimming, laughing, and just relaxing with friends.  I wasn’t really excited about it this year, I wanted Cath to take it easy — but she wouldn’t take no for an answer and promised to stay hydrated and not overdo it.  We had a great time and I’m glad she was able to enjoy herself with some of our closest friends.

So now its 5:58a, time to start work!  More to come …


Cath wishes it was that easy.  8^)

We had our week 28 appointment a few days ago so here is the update.  Caths gestational diabetes is responding well to the prescribed medicine, and she’s really been on top of it with watching her diet and carb intake.  She uses an ItzBeen timer to keep track of when she eats and when she needs to take her sugar reading, and I think that has helped a lot.  We finally got an ultrasound that shows both babies and Baby A is 2lb 10oz and Baby B is 2lb 14oz — both about the same size as a singleton would be at this point!

Baby A has been breech all along, and baby B was also breech on this ultrasound, so we went ahead and scheduled the C-Section for August 27.  That means that we will have no  more than 10 weeks from today, whoop!  Cathy is really being a trooper and I can tell she is starting to become more and more uncomfortable physically.  She’s a tremendous woman and I appreciate her so much.  Since she’s a teacher she is now off for the summer, and I think that – more than anything – has lifted her spirits and really helped.  Now our appointments are every two weeks for the next month, then twice a week until the boys arrive!

Fathers Day:  My Dad’s birthday is in early June so I usually combine his birthday and Fathers Day gifts when I can.  I got him a GPS because he’s always going to various VAs, Doctors offices, shops, etc.  Even though he’s a “map guy”, if he uses the GPS I think he’ll like it.  Especially as he ages and is still required to taxi the family around.

For myself, for my last Fathers Day without kids, I picked up Memento by Chronicle books.  It’s basically a prompt-based journal that you write in and eventually give to your kids.  It’s filled with various prompts about your life, beliefs, history, etc. and some of the better prompts are the ones where, if you’re honest, highlight failures as much as successes.  If either, or both, of my boys are like me, they’ll enjoy finding this completed journal amongst my posessions one day.

Nursery update and my ManShower: Last week we finished painting the nursery, picked up the two carseats, and the cribs came in.  I’ve scheduled the carpets to be cleaned this week, then I’ll put the cribs, dresser, bookshelf, etc. together and the room will really start to come together!  I also sent out an invite to my friends on a ManShower in mid-July.  It’s my last guys-night-out before the boys arrive; i’m thinking we’ll do burgers at the house then take in a local minor-league baseball game.  If you didn’t get your invitation, email me.  8^)

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One of the reasons I created this blog is because while doing all my research for childbirth, raising multiples, etc. I found a TON of support groups for moms — not so much for Dads.  Chris Rock has a great bit about this, roughly paraphrased:

Good Dads don’t get a lot of recognition.  The MVP Quarterback doesn’t say “thanks Dad” after the big game or hitting the game winning homerun.  Fathers Day presents are always worse than Mothers Day presents.  Did you tell Daddy he looks strong today?  Daddys don’t get thanked for paying the electric bill or “hooking up with that rent”.  Everythings for the Mommy.  What does Daddy get?  … Daddy gets the big piece of chicken.

I try to record as much information and notes as I can here, so that others can benefit from what I have learned while browsing the entire Internet, most Moms support sites, and Random_Baby_Related_Technology_Manufacturer().com.  The latest tidbit I found out is about baby monitors, and I learned it yesterday …

Everyone likely knows you want an audio monitor to be able to listen to your babies in the next room.  A SIDS movement monitor is also a nice way to put your mind at ease as it will alert you if the newborn doesn’t have at least a minute movement every 20 seconds.  The makers of the Angelcare SIDS movement and Audio monitor make a standard movement monitor mat and a single receiver, a Deluxe version which packages an extra receiver, and a Deluxe Plus model that packages an extra movement mat.  This is great news for parents of multiples, as I thought i’d have to purchase two of the complete sets for 139$ each to monitor our twins, but now I just have to get the 159$ deluxe plus model.  The only bad part is that currently it is only available through Amazon.com and the manufacturers direct website.  We are already registered at Target and BabiesRUs, so I don’t want to add yet another registry (Amazon).  So this one is just gonna be an in-house purchase for us.  I’m adding the monitor website to the resources links tab if you are interested.

*UPDATE 6/2/10*  Welp, here’s a hiccup for the readers.  I was very excited about the dual monitor pad setup but something kept nagging at me.  Nowhere in the description on Amazon or the manufacturer’s website did it say “perfect for twins!” or similar.  I decided to contact customer service and, sadly, I was told that this was a product more for a large crib that needed two monitors and would not work to monitor two separate cribs for movement failure.  Indeed, we will need two of the SIDS monitoring systems.  At least I found out before the purchase.

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I have not blogged for some time, not that I have given up, I just found little time to craft meaningful posts interesting enough to share to friends and family. So this is a very overdue post with a summary of the past four weeks or so …

Re: Twins
So if you know SQL and looked at the post heading, you already know the sex of our twins. But for those of you who don’t, let me tell you the same way we told our families. We used a hangman type game I thought up. Basically, we went around the table and each parent/sibling got to chose a letter (consonants for the first round, vowels available starting round 2), which we added to the sheet of paper that had the names blanked out if it was in the first or middle name of either twin. It took about three rounds (Cathy has a large family with many siblings) to get the first twin name guessed, and another round or two to get the second.
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Note that Cath and I have not decided on names yet, the names we used were just placeholders we like to reveal the sex of each twin. I didn’t want to just say, “we’re having X and Y” or “we’re having twin blah’s”.

So Twin Hangman/Wheel-of-Fortune resulted in:

That’s right, we’ve had two ultrasounds confirm that we’re having twin boys! So unless the ultrasound technicians are wrong, “Lillian Marie”, the only name Cath and I agreed on and was set in stone, goes back in the queue.

Twin boys. Wow. I keep finding myself daydreaming about how they will help me mow, and change oil, and write shell scripts, and the two of them will team up to whoop up on me in sports. Oh those S. boys are competitive and sneaky you know. One of them will kick me in the shins so the other can drive to the basket. I can see it now, you know they conspire against their ole’ Dad to beat him in 21-tip.

Cath and I were talking the other day about how we’re gonna raise twin boys. I told her about two little boys who were behind me on a plane recently and they kept kicking my seat. Then all they could talk about was how when you poop on an airplane it must just fall out the bottom of the plane and hit whoever is on the ground below. They laughed, and made poop noises, and what they thought the sound would be when poop hit someone in the face after falling from a plane. This was a 45 minute conversation. It was an eye-opening experience for me.

But by the same token, I also found myself smiling at the thought of taking my boys to the bathroom and the three of us racing to see who could finish first; most likely standing around the toilet peeing on everything but in the bowl. Cath didn’t think this was a good idea, shook her head in disbelief, and said that could only be an “away from the house” game.

Re: Parenting
Cath and I have continued taking baby classes at the hospital. So far we’ve taken infant first aid, infant CPR, breast feeding, and are in week 3 of the 4 week baby prep class (tour hospital, Lamaze, intro to nursing, etc.). It has been very beneficial and has reduced our stress a lot. I’ve learned a lot and feel a lot more comfortable about the first two weeks or so after they are delivered. It sounds weird, but it is kind of like a “date night” for us in that we both look forward to each week, it is special time we get to spend together, and we know it is very worthwhile time spent and an investment in our family.

I’m also putting a feeler out in the neighborhood to start a neighborhood watch program. I’m not happy with some of the activities going on in our formerly quiet subdivision. Some jackass with more money than sense bought a house for his son and the kids college friends. So now the rest of us get to deal with the kids immaturity. Public drunkenness, indecent exposure (peeing in the road, neighborhood yards, etc.), beer bottles thrown in others yards, probable DUI’s leaving our subdivision at all hours of the night, etc. After 18 months it is something I won’t stand for any more. These types of things continue to happen, even after multiple neighbors have talked to the kids who live there and expressed how they are responsible for their party-goers actions. I know this all makes me sound VERY OLD and that I risk being tagged as “THAT GUY” in the neighborhood, but my responsibilities have changed now and we purposefully purchased our house in a neighborhood with young professionals – not at the local University apartment complex. GET OFF MY LAWN, RAWR!

Re: New Job
I spent a week in Reno, NV at the all employee meeting for my new job. The organization I work for is completely virtual with only a handful of people working out of offices.  A majority work strictly from home. It was very interesting to meet the people I’ve only talked to over the phone and I can honestly say that I’ve never worked with this many sharp folks before. It is quite intimidating! I also learned that about 6 of the 10 major projects for the organization directly involve my position, so I think I’ll have a busy work-year ahead of me.  Wheee!

More to come …

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Wow, no new posts for a while. Bad Blogger. I’m sorry, I need to get better at this. So here’s whats going on, and why there’s been limited updates in the past few weeks …

Babies Update …
Thursday was our monthly Dr. appointment. We were there until 530 talking to the Dr. about some warning signs pointing to gestational diabetes later, how to mitigate that risk with tracking carbs, modified diet, exercise, etc. and by the time we finished with him we were too late to do the ultrasound. We go back in 2 weeks for another sugar test, hopefully we’ll get one then. I *LOVE* the ultrasounds and getting more pictures of A and B are the highlights of my month! I always get excited about those visits and can’t wait to see how much they’ve grown. Hopefully the technician takes an extra minute or two and gets us some great pix, in all of our other ultrasounds one of the babes is always squished, heh. They used a mic and got us another dose of heartbeats, always fantastic. I dont know how to explain it other than it _lifts_ you up to hear it. We have one fast-normal and one slow-normal heartbeat, so I’m still all-in that we’re having a boy and a girl.

Some of you know that Cath is a middle school teacher but she’s also the sitting director of a non-profit that brings award-winning authors to middle-school classrooms. She’s been going 120 mph the past two weeks getting things organized for the upcoming visit and I’m hoping once that is completed things will slow down for her professionally. I’m helping out as much as I can with laundry, making meals, etc. but all that just helps out with the personal/home life. Most of her current stress is professional. The part I hate most is seeing her continually take on extra tasks and responsibilities instead of delegating! I have to tread lightly because she may read this, but she’s preggerz with twins and needs to learn how to say “No” and “Why don’t you take care of that.”. That’s just not who she is though. She has a lot of her Mom in her!

DBA Update …
The winds of change are blowing for me professionally. Some of you know that I work most weekends and holidays and the past 6 years of 24×7 required availability have burned me out something nasty. I told my boss in each of my last 3 yearly performance reviews that I couldn’t keep this schedule up once we started a family. With the twins on the way, I haven’t seen any change in that schedule or the projected schedule for the next 3-4 years. As such, Q4 last year I started keeping my eyes open for other opportunities that would have less impact on my “family time”. I’ve been in negotiations since November with a government entity about a dba manager position and have tentatively accepted it, to begin at the end of this month (after passing various background checks and exams). It is a change, and that is always difficult and stressful, but I think it will be what’s best for me and my family over the long run. My current employer got my best for 6 years and I hope whoever they find to replace me can fill size 13 shoes!

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I started this blog for a couple reasons. One was to chronicle my adventure … to keep a parenting notebook I guess. Another was that my folks live 700 miles away, my best friend lives 1200 miles away, so this is a way for me to communicate with them as often as they read their RSS, email, or browse their favorites. Yet another was that writing out my feelings and thoughts is surprisingly therapeutic. The blog also helps me catalog websites, multiples discount codes, and plain text snippets and keep them all in one place (similar to the parenting notebook theme). Finally, I thought it might be a place where other new fathers, of multiples or singletons, might find some valuable tips.

Here’s a random list of some of my suggestions, …

Always remember that right now your wife is making/taking care of the babies, so it is your job to take care of your wife.

Things I’m doing to take care of the wifey:

  1. Go to every appt if possible. I haven’t missed one yet. With the amount of after hours work I do, it is easy for me to slide out early to go to an appointment. This may not be true for most.
  2. Do some laundry.
  3. Take the dog for a walk every day. This has been hard with the snowstorms we’ve gotten this year.
  4. Ask if she’s taken her vitamin, medication, checked sugar, etc. I used an outlook appt reminder so I’d remember to email her each day at 9am for her after breakfast sugar check.
  5. Take the wife for a walk!
  6. Go to parenthood classes.
  7. Fix dinners.
  8. Take out the trash.
  9. Go to multiples support classes. We have our first twins support group next week, I’m very excited about learning some stuff there.
  10. Take out the recycling. I always forget this. I made an outlook appointment to remind me.
  11. Make snack bags (goldfish crackers, teddy grahams, ginger snaps, etc.) and store in her office drawer, car, nightstand, etc.
  12. Meet her/bring lunch to her work.
  13. Ask how she’s doing every day. If she was sick earlier, remember to ask if she’s feeling better later!
  14. Do research online about pregnancy and share what you find. I email her snippets, some she already knows, some she doesn’t.
  15. Clean toilet every day (doubly important if she has morning sickness).
  16. Gas up her car each week.
  17. Massage some stretch mark lotion on her. This can serve multiple purposes …
  18. Fill up the server with movies/shows. WHS streaming is going to save me during her bedrest period.
  19. Call/txt/email her asking how she’s doing.
  20. Footrubs. Cath has feet issues so she’s never accepted, but I still offer!
  21. Keep a pregnancy folder and store important documents, articles, paperwork
  22. Start a careCalendar (will come in handy when she’s on bedrest and first few weeks after delivery)
  23. Nap with her
  24. Remember sometimes she’s talking to you to have someone to listen, not to have someone to solve the problem she’s discussing (this is very hard for me)

more to come …